Courage

In writing Single 101, I discovered right from the start that I was really writing the book for myself. Making a decision that could impact the rest of my life, I needed the courage and strength to survive on my own. Even being my own coach and support system took courage, convincing myself that I had to keep believing in me.  Whether we’re consciously aware of it or not, courage gets us through each day and night.

I know so many women who fear being alone and not exclusively after darkness falls. Many are accustomed to a house full of family members and when one finds herself solely responsible for keeping the home fires burning, it can be a daunting task.  “You’ll need courage for what?” ask both women and men.  The list can be overwhelming, so I’ll just mention a few:

Keeping your job and for as long as possible if you choose the single lifestyle permanently

Getting through the holidays if you have no family or close friends

Cooking for one and enjoying each meal in solitude

Accepting what life’s cards are dealt for you in sickness and in health

Being able to ask for help when you need it


Many of us singletons can be very stubborn mules with strong, independent spirits. Not only does it take courage for some of us to ask for help, it’s important to have the motivation to reach out and help others.  With so many people saving every penny and focused on their own immediate families, the spirit may not be knocking on your door this year.  If you feel like Christmasing, there couldn't be a better time than now to start a new tradition.  Reaching out as a volunteer, donating to a local charity or attending holiday events at places of worship can breathe new life into your world of flying solo.

Cheers to the brave and the bold! Best wishes for happiness through the holidays and peace in the new year . . . Celeste